过去的几个月，我经历了难以想象的挫折。突然想起来每个月还在给Google Cloud付十几块钱，维持这个几年没有用过的Blog。这一段时间我想把一些思绪写在这里，可以帮助我消化一些情绪。
A few takeaways as a 26 years old who recently divorced:
- It’s cliched, but money really can’t buy happiness. 在过去的几年里，我有自己的房子，有车开，有还算不错的工作, 几乎从未需要为日常生活的开销发愁过。But I have never been more lost and distressed than in the past year or so. 恰恰相反的是，most of the conflicts in my life revolved around money.
- 人只能自救。In the past I was hoping for someone to enter my life, someone who’s got it all figured out, 像一缕阳光突然从天窗照进许久未有人至的阁楼一样。现在我意识到这是不切实际的, 真正活得通透的人没有多少，即便遇到了她们也不会愿意带着一个沉重，矛盾，阴郁的人走出泥潭。
- As a man, 要拿得起，放得下。无论曾经多么在乎的人或事，当意识到很难继续下去的时候，turn around and never look back. 这不仅仅是为了看起来潇洒或者体面，其实也是最理性的选择。该付出的感情和努力一样要付出，但要做好丢掉一切的准备。
- Be a good person is hard. And sometimes bad things happen to good people.